Trust...and lowering walls..

The fact is that most parents, including Christians, replay what they learned, even in those areas that were personally hurtful. To break well-defined generational habits, we need to understand not only Biblical solutions, but also how experiences from our early development impact the rest of our lives. To heal, we have to trust Him. To trust, we have to deal with the reasons we don’t trust anyone and be willing to yield control. To stop controlling, we have to become willing to let someone else dictate our destiny; someone we may believe failed us when we needed Him most. To heal means we lower our walls of selfprotection and allow Jesus to restore us in His own way. To do that, we must see Him as Someone Who is safe. Most people who were injured emotionally as children believe that no one is safe and trustworthy. Consequently, victims of childhood abuse or neglect seldom let the One they need most into their fragile hearts. Unfortunately, many of us are still worldly, looking for quick fixes and new drugs of choice to soothe our damaged souls. Or we try to get our insatiable needs fulfilled through others. Unfulfilled expectations becomes a long list, with each loss hardening the wall of self-protection and deepening our numbness. Because of God’s great kindness and tender love, we can experience a level of emotional healing that will allow us to honestly know and love Him in the depths of our hearts. We do not have to be victims or survivors; rather we can be servants and children of our glorious God. Instead of focusing inward to find strength, we will cry out to Jesus for help in our time of need and embrace our weaknesses (Heb 4: 14-16). Our relationships will improve, not only because of new boundaries we set, but also as a result of obedience to Biblical truth, an obedience that flows out of earnest love and relationship with the Lord.